Clearing Feelings of Resentment

By Courtney Armstrong

Certified Practitioner, Rapid Resolution Therapy

 

Resentment about the past feels awful. Many people will tell you the only way to clear it is to forgive... let it go... make peace... and a lot of other well intentioned, but rather trite statements. I've learned a more liberating and simple way to move beyond resentment.

 

Did you know that resentment isn't caused by people or past events? The response is actually caused by a glitch in communication between the logical and emotional mind. If your logical mind has a thought about an upsetting event, the emotional brain reacts as if the event is currently happening and sends the anger response to get you to stop the event from happening in the current moment. Once you clear the perception of a current threat, the anger recedes. That's it. You don't have to forgive anyone or change yourself.

 

If you watch animals in the wild, you don't see them carrying grudges and holding resentments toward each other. Why? Animal minds are not as complex as human minds. They are not able to reflect on the past or project into the future. Animals are totally oriented to the present, so their minds don't send a lot of unnecessary adrenaline if there is nothing posing an actual threat in the current moment. Dr. Jon Connelly, a mentor of mine, illustrates it with this story:

 

"If some monkey saw some other monkey monkeying around with his monkey girlfriend, he'd run up to that other male monkey snarling, posturing, and showing his teeth until that other monkey beats it out of Dodge. Two weeks later, you see the monkey sitting up in a tree eating a big, fat banana. It's a nice sunny day and his girlfriend is scratching his back in just the right spot and you ask, 'Hey, what about that other monkey? Aren't you still pissed off?' He'd say, 'What monkey?' You say, 'The one that was monkeying with your girlfriend two weeks ago.' The monkey looks confused and says, 'I don't know what you're talking about.' Then he goes back to eating his banana."

 

Dr. Connelly came up with a funny, clever way of bringing the mind to the present that clears resentment quicker than anything else I've seen. First give your mind something to consider that it realizes you don't need to do anything about RIGHT NOW. Then say out loud, "There's nothing I need to do about that right now." After you use the process with a few obvious statements, apply it to things from the past. Here's an example: 

• People are polluting the Mississippi river. Stop them, stop them right now!
• (You reply, "There's nothing I need to do about that right now.")
• The population is exploding in China, go ahead stop it, stop it right now!
• (There's nothing I need to do about that right now.)
• There is a Civil War soldier being shot at in 1862, do something, do it right now!
• (There's nothing I need to do about that right now.)

Now- try applying the same responses to something from your past. See the examples below for some ideas for how to do this.

 

• Stop him from saying that to you when you were a kid. Stop him right now.
• (Now reply: "There's nothing I need to do. I'm not a kid. It's not happening.)
• Stop him from doing that to you back then. Make him be more enlightened. Do it now!
• (There's nothing I need to do about that right now.)
• Make her be nicer to you. Make her be a more compassionate person. Go ahead- do it!
• (There's nothing I need to do about that right now.)

Now check out how you feel. I hope this gives you ideas for ways to coax your mind back to the present and release what is beyond your responsibility or control. The present moment is where you have power. All there is to do right now is anything that would bring you more peace and joy in your life. Be that monkey and go get your fat banana!

 

 

 

Courtney Armstrong, LPC, is a licensed professional counselor and nationally known speaker on trauma and grief. She is the author of Transforming Traumatic Grief: Six Steps to Move from Grief to Peace After Sudden or Violent Death of a Loved One.

How To Help Military Clients

The IRRT has partnered with "Not Alone, Inc.," a non-profit organization which pays licensed therapists to provide confidential, anonymous PTSD treatment for active duty military members and their family members. To be eligible to provide this service, a certified RRT therapist must be a military veteran, the spouse of a military veteran or have at least 3-5 years of experience treating veterans. To learn more about this organization, see their website at www.notalone.com. If you would like to be one of their providers email Jennifer Andrews, their program director (jenny@notalone.com).

 

I introduced RRT to their spouse and significant other online support group called "Trench Talk." In the coming weeks, I will offer another online support group targeted for female veterans. Thank you to certified practitioner Courtney Armstrong who helped me to welcome home, back to Fort Campbell, KY the 86th Combat Support Hospital from their overseas deployment. We learned about their sexual assault prevention program and we shared the effectiveness and timeliness of clearing traumas with RRT. We are on a mission to ensure that every soldier who is a victim of Military Sexual Trauma (MST) has the opportunity to be healed with RRT.

 

 

Article courtesy of Dr. Sharon Richie-Melvan, Ph.D., Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist. Dr. Sharon also co-authored the book, "Angel Walk: Nurses at War in Iraq and Afghanistan," with Dr. Diane Vines, Ph.D, Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist. Within the book, Dr. Sharon recommends Rapid Resolution Therapy as a PTSD treatment approach (p. 97). To purchase your copy today, please click here.

How RRT Helped Clear, Resolve and Transform 3 of My Clients!

I enjoyed the training thoroughly. Truly, I wasn't positive I'd be able to verbalize it in a way my primary population would understand--I work with 95 percent children and 100 percent special needs). However, even though I'm new and "green" with this technique. So far, so good!

First, I was working with a legally blind 30-plus year old male who had a long history of depression, anxiety and panic attacks. He recently married and is having difficulty adjusting and does not feel confident in his new role. The end result with RRT brought him to tears when he reported feeling happy and positive. He said, "This is crazy, I haven't felt this peace in such a long time!”

Second, I worked with a Gifted and Talented/ Emotionally Disturbed, 11-year old who was diagnosed with School Phobia. He was taking state exams the following week and was worsening the closer date came. The parents waited in lobby. After our session, they said, "Wow! Have we've missed that smile!” They looked puzzled but didn't question the session.

Third, I had an 18-year-old female client who was diagnosed with Noonan Syndrome, Moderate Mental Retardation, low self-esteem and is easily offended (perseverating thought: "thinks people think she's stupid."). Her parent, whom is a Pediatrician, was present entire session. She was amazed with the process and the immediate results. She added, "Even if it wears off at the end of the day...it's worth it! She hasn't stop talking about this topic ever."

Yeah, I'm enjoying witnessing and being a part of the transformation. I'm quite surprised with the lightheartedness and happiness the clients leave with. I'm no different than the parent curious how long the effects will last. Either way, they are better off than before session.

I do plan on attending the next training. I'll register soon!

Thanks for the follow-up, Jon!

LindaMay

RRT Success at the 2011 Psychiatric and Mental Health Congress

Rapid Resolution Therapy treatment outcome study results recently presented at the 2011 Psychiatric and Mental Health Congress are available under 'Research' at www.cleartrauma.com. A follow-up study will begin in January 2012.

Presenters at the conference included (shown left to right) Master Rapid Resolution Therapist Melinda Paige, Ed.S, LPC, LMHC, NCC, Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist Sharon Richie-Melvan, Ph.D., and Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist Diane Vines, Ph.D., R.N.

For more information about IRRT research contact Research Director, Dr. Sharon Richie-Melvan at 352-476-5599.

Rapid Resolution Therapy Success Story

My name is Gary, and I’m a 2008 graduate from a drug rehab center. This month marks my third year clean on July 22, 2011. Jon, I just wanted you to know that my life was changed after I met you. I really didn’t understand at the time what the sessions meant, or what I would get out of them. I just knew I wanted to plain STOP, and I was willing to try anything. You are the one who told me “that my life had to of happened this way – that it couldn’t of happened any other way.” I understand now. I walked out of your office and just knew my life would be different. The drug abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse fell to the way side like dropping a bag of bricks. I believe that YOU believed in me before I could believe in myself. Thank you, Jon.

Every time I come up on my clean date you are the first person that comes to mind – every year. They said that one person out of the 60 of us that were in the program back in 2008 would leave there and stay clean. That one person was me. I am now the GSR of my home group. I am a sponsor. I do H&I work am currently working on my tenth step. You are an amazing man! Thank you.

Gary S.

IRRT Announces New Center For Rapid Resolution Therapy® Program Guidelines

The Institute for Rapid Resolution Therapy® announces the new guidelines for practitioners to brand their practice as a Center for Rapid Resolution Therapy®. Below you will find the benefits of certifying your practice, requirements for certification, and guidelines for trademark licensing. Please note that all Rapid Resolution Therapy® practitioners will also receive a copy of these guidelines in the mail. If you have any questions, please contact us here!

BENEFITS OF CERTIFICATION

Branding/Promotion
• Use of Centers for Rapid Resolution Therapy® branding and promotional material including Rapid Resolution Therapy® logo, Rapid Trauma Resolution® logo, and other marketing materials such as brochures and ad copy to advertise your Center.
• Promotion of your Center and RRT certified staff through press releases, public service announcements and other media releases distributed by public relations professionals.
• Advertising and promotion on IRRT Facebook fanpage, Twitter, Clear Trauma blog, IRRT newsletter and the IRRT YouTube Channel.
• Monthly promotion in Psychotherapy Networker

Website
• Your own locally optimized page on the Centers for Rapid Resolution Therapy® website www.rrtcenters.com, a nationally search engine optimized website with twenty keyword phrases targeting therapy services such as: Depression and Anxiety, Intensive Trauma Therapy and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Treatment and training services such as: Trauma Therapy Training, Clinical Hypnosis Training and Clinical Hypnotherapy Training

Consultation
• Consultation with public relations and social media branding specialists at the IRRT.
• Consultation with practice-building specialists who have created their own successful RRT practices.
• Consultation with credentialing specialists to become a board certified hypnosis training provider or general training provider in your state offering continuing education credit to mental health professionals.

Training
• Opportunities to provide nationally advertised trainings/workshops with the IRRT
• Opportunities to receive train-the-trainer coaching by Dr. Connelly as an IRRT Associate Trainer at trainings throughout the country

Certified Practitioner Mentoring
• Opportunities to contribute to the next generation of RRT Certified Practitioners by mentoring Certified Practitioners seeking Master Certified Practitioner status with the IRRT
• Opportunities to create RRT Consultation/Supervision groups in your local community


REQUIREMENTS OF CERTIFICATION

Centers for Rapid Resolution Therapy® are individually owned psychotherapy practices prepared to offer more than psychotherapy. These IRRT Certified Treatment Centers located throughout the country are designed to provide mental health treatment, professional training and consultation in the local community as a Certified Treatment Center staffed with mental health and trauma resolution specialists. Finally, these locally held headquarters for RRT reach out into their communities to provide pro bono mental health services to trauma survivors without access to financial resources.

In order to be certified by the Institute for Rapid Resolution Therapy® as a Certified Treatment Center for Rapid Resolution Therapy® the licensee must be licensed as a medical or mental health professional. The licensee must also be a Master Certified Practitioner with the Institute for Rapid Resolution Therapy®.

In order for trademark licensing to remain active, the annual licensing fee of $497 per month or $6395 per year must be paid in full.

TRADEMARK LICENSING GUIDELINES - For Certified Practitioners, the Master Certified Practitioner Program, and the Certified Treatment Center

Certified Practitioners are granted permission to use the Connelly names and trademarks in connection with their mental health practice under the following conditions:

• Certified Practitioners agree that all services offered under the Connelly Trademarks shall strictly conform with the methods as instructed by Dr. Connelly.
• In all Certified Practitioner promotional materials, including websites and written brochures, Dr. Jon Connelly shall be identified as the creator and developer of the methods used in connection with Rapid Trauma Resolution and Rapid Resolution Therapy.
• Certified Practitioners agree not to use any of the names or trademarks of Dr. Connelly except as provided in these guidelines. All Certified Practitioner uses of the Connelly Trademarks, Rapid Resolution Therapy and Rapid Trauma Resolution, shall be in compliance with the following requirements and all Connelly Trademarks must be displayed and illustrated in exactly the manner included below:

1. All displays or illustrations of Connelly Trademarks shall also include the following notice: “Rapid Resolution Therapy and Rapid Trauma Resolution were founded and developed by, and are both trademarks of Dr. Jon Connelly and are used under license.”

2. All Certified Practitioner promotional materials including print, media and electronic, (including websites), may utilize any text found on the websites http://www.cleartrauma.com/ and http://www.rapidresolutiontherapy.com/ provided that such text must be taken exactly as published and shall all include the bolded ownership statement above.

3. All Certified Practitioner websites shall include a link, prominently displayed, to Dr. Connelly’s websites, http://www.cleartrauma.com/ and http://www.rapidresolutiontherapy.com/.

4. No domain names containing any names or trademarks of Dr. Connelly may be used without expressed written permission from Dr. Connelly as this is considered trademark infringement by law.

5. Upon termination of this Agreement, Certified Practitioner will immediately cease the use of any names or trademarks of Dr. Connelly including names or trademarks that resemble the Connelly names or trademarks.

6. The use of the Connelly names and trademarks are granted under a license fee which is included in the Certification Practitioner certification fee.

7. The term of this agreement shall be for a period of one year commencing from the date of this agreement and coinciding with the duration of the Certified Practitioner’s certification Fee period. Said Agreement shall be automatically renewed upon Certified Practitioner’s payment of successive annual certification fees, unless terminated by written notice of termination to the other party with at least ninety (90) days notice prior to the expiration of said term.

New Rapid Resolution Therapy Master Practitioner Mentorship Program For Certified Practitioners

Certified Practitioners are now eligible to begin their candidacy in the Master Certified Practitioner (MCP) Program as soon as they become certified, following 50 hours of training in Clinical Hypnosis with Rapid Trauma Resolution®. Below are the benefits, requirements and new mentorship program!

BENEFTIS OF CERTIFICATION IN THE MASTER PRACTITIONER PROGRAM

Promotion
• Access to promotional material for private practice including Rapid Resolution Therapy® logo, Rapid Trauma Resolution® logo, IRRT Master Certified Practitioner seal, customizable brochure and flyer
• Promotion of personal workshops and opportunities to share client success stories through the IRRT newsletter
• Advertising and promotion on IRRT Facebook fanpage, Twitter, Clear Trauma blog, and YouTube and monthly promotion in Psychotherapy Networker

Networking
• Networking opportunities with other members of the IRRT community
• Referrals from the Institute for Rapid Resolution Therapy® and Institute for Survivors of Sexual Violence
• Priority listing as a Master Certified Practitioner with contact information on the IRRT websites

Training
• Opportunities to provide workshops for the IRRT community at advanced level III trainings
• Opportunities to assist Dr. Connelly as an IRRT Associate Trainer at his trainings throughout the country
• Opportunities to lead biweekly teleconference trainings
• Attendance with tuition waived at any IRRT training (Level I, II, III)
• Invitations to intensive trainings with Dr. Connelly reserved for Master Certified Practitioners
• Biweekly teleconference training and coaching with Dr. Connelly and/or his Master Certified Practitioners
• Advanced case materials which teach the process of Clinical Hypnosis with Rapid Trauma Resolution® and Rapid Trauma Resolution®
• Access to practice building consultation with Rapid Resolution Therapy® Certified Practitioners with successful Rapid Resolution Therapy® practices.

Consultation
• Opportunities to contribute to the next generation of RRT Certified Practitioners by mentoring practitioners seeking Master Certified Practitioner status with the Institute for Rapid Resolution Therapy®
• Opportunities to create RRT Consultation groups in your local community.

REQUIREMENTS OF CERTIFICATION IN THE MASTER PRACTITIONER PROGRAM

In order to be certified by the Institute for Rapid Resolution Therapy® as a Master Certified Practitioner in Rapid Resolution Therapy® an individual must be licensed as a medical or mental health professional. Candidates must have completed a minimum of 200 hours of training in Clinical Hypnosis with Rapid Trauma Resolution® and Rapid Resolution Therapy®.

During the Certified Practitioner’s candidacy period his or her mentor will identify and submit three transcripts with audios (covering different material, e.g., anxiety, grief, trauma, anger, substance cravings, etc) along with the mentor’s recommendation to Master Certified Practitioner Coordinator, Dr. Doug Schooler at dougschooler@hotmail.com, for acceptance into the Master Certified Practitioner program.

Master Certified Practitioners must review advanced case material and attend at least two 25 hour advanced level III training per year. The Institute for Rapid Resolution Therapy®, Inc. is dedicated to providing the highest level of service to all individuals who have experienced sexual violence and other trauma regardless of their financial status. Master Certified Practitioners are required to provide pro bono services to those lacking financial resources with reasonable frequency. In order for certification status to remain active, the annual certification fee of $297 per month or $3395 per year must be paid in full.

MASTER PRACTITIONER MENTORSHIP PROGRAM

In order to become a candidate for the MCP Program, Certified Practitioners should contact Mentorship Program Coordinator Melinda Paige at cleartrauma@gmail.com to state their intent to begin candidacy. At this time the Certified Practitioner will enter the Mentorship Program and may select a mentor (a current Master Certified Practitioner) who will review the candidate’s Rapid Resolution Therapy clinical work while the candidate completes the necessary training hours.

After reviewing the transcripts and audios submitted by the CP, the Mentor will forward the work samples to Doug Schooler, Master Certified Practitioner Program Coordinator, along with his or her recommendation for the candidate’s acceptance into the Master Certified Practitioner Program. The mentorship consultation fee is $100 per transcript/audio paid directly to the MCP Mentor. MCP Mentors will be listed on the community message board along with their contact information.

Professional Mental Health Practitioners and Clients Share Their Success with Rapid Resolution Therapy!

Watch as professional mental health counselors and clients speak to the effectiveness of Clinical Hypnosis with Rapid Trauma Resolution!

Licensed Mental Health Counselor Describes How She Uses Rapid Trauma Resolution with Adolescents

Clinical Director and Licensed Mental Health Counselor Susan shares how Clinical Hypnosis with Rapid Trauma Resolution has not only impacted her professionally but personally. Susan describes how Dr. Connelly’s method is quicker, cleaner, and way more effective in working with her teenage girl and adolescent boy clients.

Sherry Describes How Rapid Trauma Resolution Training Made Her a More Ef...

Mental health practitioner Sherry tells how her counseling practice was transformed after attending Dr. Connelly’s Clinical Hypnosis with Rapid Trauma Resolution workshop. Working primarily with drug and alcohol dependent clients, Sherry shares how easily it is to instill change in people and give them total resolution for when they leave. RTR has not only been effective for her clients, but Sherry said it has “breathed life into her.”

"Angel Walk" Book is Coming Aboard the U.S.S. New York Library

IRRT Certified Practitioners Sharon Richie-Melvan, Ph.D., and Diane Vines, Ph.D., R.N., have been recognized for their recently published book, Angel Walk: Nurses at War in Iraq and Afghanistan, which recommends Rapid Resolution Therapy as a PTSD treatment. Both authors have been invited to submit a personalized copy of Angel Walk to the library aboard the U.S.S. New York, the ship that was created using scrap metal from the World Trade Center attack on 9-11.

Angel Walk reveals the untold stories of the men and women who have fought for the lives of those wounded on the battlefield, Army Nurse Corps (ANC) officers. It provides a unique perspective into the hearts and minds of these caretakers; sheds light on their experiences, trials, and tribulations; and describes the lifestyle and living accommodations of these nurses and their patients. A retired ANC colonel, Dr. Sharon Richie-Melvan delicately retells the horrific stories of mass casualties, amputations, and death experienced by those deployed to a combat zone; voices compassion and empathy for those who are still caring for the wounded, and reminds us of the pride and camaraderie of being a military nurse. Throughout this book the authors reveal the joys, fears, reactions, and coping mechanisms used by nurses in the line of duty. As a nursing professor, Dr. Diane Vines identifies key resources, critical references, and explores how family members, friends, colleagues, and concerned citizens can better understand and help warriors and nurses in their reintegration back home. She also presents the full spectrum of coping responses from mild stress reactions to severe depression and explores the varied education and treatment programs now available to all returning troops.

To get your copy of Angel Walk today, please visit http://www.cleartrauma.com/books-articles.php.

How Rapid Trauma Resolution Cleared Sean's Guilt in One Session

At the age of 14-years old, Sean was in an automobile accident with his friend where he died. Hear Sean’s story of how he found relief from turmoil and guilt using Clinical Hypnosis with Rapid Trauma Resolution!

Rapid Trauma Resolution in Psychotherapy Networker

Clinical Hypnosis with Rapid Trauma Resolution is now featured in the 2011 January and February editions of "Psychotherapy Networker!"

Mental health practitioners can earn 25 continuing education hours in one weekend and learn how to clear multiple traumas in one session, resolve subconscious causes for emotional and behavioral difficulties, pinpoint the exact traumatic events to clear so change is automatic, and much more.

Dr. Jon Connelly will lead you through an experiential and invigorating weekend workshop. To register or learn more information about training in Clinical Hypnosis with Rapid Trauma Resolution, please visit www.cleartrauma.com or call (800) 587-2623.