By Courtney Armstrong, LPCCertified Practitioner, Rapid Resolution Therapy
After a major loss or traumatic event, you could feel as if you've changed permanently and will never return to be who you once were. You can feign joy, hope, or humor for your friends, but deep down it can feel like only a hard, bitter shell of who you are remains.
Many people tell me they feel like they have to face the reality that they will never be the same and grieve the loss of their former selves. But, I do not think you have "lost" your former self. Instead, I think the impact of these devastating events casts a shadow that is blocking your ability to connect with the world they way you used to. The work I do with people clears that shadow so they can reconnect to the light that is always there within them and actually connect with the world in a deeper, richer way than they did before.
Click this link to hear a radio interview Courtney did with Michele Rosenthal (ofHealMyPTSD.com) discussing how to recover the lost self. We've been getting great feedback from listeners of this show and think you will find it encouraging and uplifting.
Courtney Armstrong, LPC, is a licensed professional counselor and nationally known speaker on trauma and grief. She is the author of Transforming Traumatic Grief: Six Steps to Move from Grief to Peace After Sudden or Violent Death of a Loved One.